I had this post ready to go a few days ago but then I heard about the stabbings at University Of Waterloo on Wednesday June 28, 2023 where a 24 year old male former international student targeted a gender studies class and stabbed 3 people. This made me stop and reflect on my topic a little more. According to police, “this was a hate-motivated incident related to gender expression and gender identity”. Significantly worse than stealing a Pride flag, which is what prompted this post, and quite alarming and frightening. Fear is so real today with the bold verbal and physical attacks occurring so frequently, leaving LGBTQ2S+ folks and their allies unsure of what to do and leaving many questioning if hate or ignorance is the motivating factor of these attacks.
I am also saddened by all the negative events happening in the world to the LGBTQ2S+ community recently, from discriminatory laws being created, to protests at Drag events & Pride events and vandalism. I am aware none of this is new but I am disheartened by the criminal activities and blatant derogatory comments that people put out on social media.
In recent years, Pride celebrations and the ubiquitous Pride flag have become symbols of LGBTQ2S+ visibility and acceptance. While these demonstrations of love, inclusion, and equality have gained widespread support, they have also sparked negative comments and controversy. It begs the question: Are these criticisms rooted in hate or simply a lack of understanding?
For a second time our Pride flag was stolen off the front of our office exterior. This happened in 2021 as well. We filed police reports and I posted on social media (including the Next Door app) my disgust with the thefts. In 2021 I received 2 supportive comments on this platform. I’m not sure why I was surprised but this time several people posted rude, dismissive and ignorant comments while others were still supportive.
I spoke to PC Joanna Styrczula, a Peel Regional Police officer with the Equity & Inclusions Bureau, about the theft. She told me there have been many of these thefts happening all over Peel and I questioned whether this constitutes a hate crime? I also asked about a recent twitter post that showed a mother encouraging her young children to stomp all over Pride flags. This happened in another city so she could not comment on what their local police did to address it, however, she explained that it is not considered a hate crime in Canada if those people owned the Pride flags…..crazy, right?! That is considered freedom of speech. So if a bigot purchases a Pride flag or a flag of another country and chooses to stomp on it or burn it, there are no consequences. BUT, if they steal a flag (theft is a crime) and proceed to burn it or stomp on it, then that is a hate crime. The number for the Equity and Inclusion unit is 905-453-2121 ext 3605.
In order for an incident to be deemed a hate crime a criminal offence must have occurred. Advocating genocide, public incitement of hate and wilful promotion of hatred are all hate crimes.
Regardless, ALL incidents that you think are hate related should be reported to the police. Specifically, Peel Regional Police can be contacted at 905-453-3311 (non emergency number) or the Hate Motivated Crime HOTLINE at 905-456-5905 to report all incidents (slurs, spitting, harassment, etc) and they actually have a Reassurance Protocol where the police will follow up with you within 48 hours. There is also a hate crime coordinator at each division and a Safe Place initiative in Peel Region. The Safe Place Initiative is a voluntary program designed to assist all victims of hate-motivated crimes or incidents, but more specifically, the LGBTQ+ community by providing them with a safe place and support to report incidents to police. AND, If you really want to make a difference, apply to join the Peel Regional Police Chief’s LGBTQ2S+ Advisory Committee ( https://www.peelpolice.ca/en/in-the-community/chief_s-advisory-committees.aspx#LGBTQ-Advisory-Committee ) by emailing jennifer.bissell@peelpolice.ca. This will give you an opportunity to directly advise the Chief of police with your concerns and suggestions.
In this blog post, we will explore the motivations behind negative comments about Pride celebrations and the Pride flag, and discuss whether they stem from hate or ignorance.
Understanding Pride Celebrations:
Pride celebrations are annual events held worldwide to commemorate the LGBTQ2S+ community's struggle for equality, recognize their achievements, and promote self-affirmation, dignity, and increased visibility. Parades, festivals, and other activities create safe spaces for individuals to express themselves authentically and foster a sense of belonging.
Negative Comments: Hate or Ignorance?
Ignorance:
Many negative comments surrounding Pride celebrations and the Pride flag may stem from a lack of knowledge or exposure to LGBTQ2S+ issues. Misunderstandings and misconceptions can arise due to societal norms, cultural differences, or limited exposure to diverse perspectives. Some individuals may genuinely hold conservative beliefs rooted in traditional values without intending to promote hate. In such cases, education and open dialogue can play a vital role in fostering understanding and bridging gaps between communities. PFLAG does a great job in educating and promoting allyship. Reach out to your local chapter to see how they can help educate your workplace, school or community.
Fear of the Unknown:
Fear can be a significant factor behind negative comments about Pride celebrations. People may fear what they do not understand or perceive as different. This fear can lead to resistance, as some individuals might view LGBTQ2S+ rights and visibility as challenging the status quo or undermining their own values and beliefs. However, it is essential to recognize that fear should not justify hateful or discriminatory behaviour, but rather prompt constructive dialogue and empathy-building efforts. Follow Alok Menon on instagram @alokvmenon and read some of their amazing responses to hateful comments. Truly inspiring words from a very eloquent and highly educated person.
Deep-Rooted Prejudice:
Sadly, hate can be a motivating factor behind negative comments about Pride celebrations and the Pride flag. Homophobia, transphobia, and other forms of discrimination still persist in society, fuelled by prejudice and bias. Such individuals may express their hatred through derogatory remarks, slurs, or even acts of violence. It is crucial to address and confront this hate directly, promoting awareness, tolerance, and respect for all individuals, regardless of their sexual orientation or gender identity. In no way should you put yourself in danger, but always report incidents to the police. I am fully aware of the distrust of police that some people have, but I do know there is support offered by Peel Regional Police as described above.
Promoting Dialogue and Understanding:
To bridge the gap between hate and ignorance, it is essential to foster dialogue and promote education. Encouraging open conversations can help challenge misconceptions, debunk stereotypes, and promote empathy. Educating people about LGBTQ2S+ history, struggles, and accomplishments can contribute to greater acceptance and understanding. Please see the Resources page of this blog for various organizations that can help you. There are so many more that I discover all the time, so do your research and reach out to those that resonate with you.
Conclusion:
While negative comments about Pride celebrations and the Pride flag can arise from both hate and ignorance, it is crucial to approach the issue with empathy and open-mindedness. By engaging in respectful dialogue, education, and a commitment to equality, we can work toward a society that embraces diversity and creates safe spaces for all individuals to express their authentic selves. Let us strive for a world where Pride is celebrated and understood, free from discrimination and prejudice.
In spite of highlighted negative events, I had a blast at Toronto Pride 2023 and I attended the Mississauga Mayor’s Pride Social 2023 on June 30, 2023! The social was so positive and had many LGBTQ2S+ people, organizations and allies in attendance. It was promising to see many officials in attendance and to listen to them state their support of the LGBTQ2S+ community. I especially loved when Mayor Bonnie Crombie stated, “we will not tolerate intolerance”. Various people expressed that we must stand up to hate and have conversations and support each other. So whether it is hate or ignorance as the root of the discriminatory behaviour, there are many people to help us, guide us and support us as we attempt to deal with the hate or ignorance.
Stay positive, do what you can and stay safe.
